Rethinking emotional regulation and self-harm

A science-based approach to understanding emotional regulation and self-harm among young people.

The huge rise in teenage anxiety and self-harm shows we need to be talking much more about emotional regulation, trauma and resilience.

The challenges young people face are not personal; they are relevant to us all. We’re biologically designed to survive in a world very different from the one we live in today.

Understanding the human nervous system and the huge impact it has on our daily lives, health and relationships is a foundation for future success and resilience.

Our self-harm training draws on insights from neuroscience, psychology and lived experience to explain how the nervous system works constantly to keep us safe and how self-harm is a coping strategy that taps into our mind-body intelligence.

We share scientific insights, conversation starters and practical tools for emotional regulation and resilience. At the heart of our approach is recognising that we must dismantle the stigma around self-harm so that the huge number of young people who are relying on it can fully heal and reach their potential.

Sign up to our online self-harm training

  • Rethinking self-harm - an overview of the science of self-harm for professionals

    A monthly self-harm training webinar for educators and professionals providing a science-based perspective on teenage anxiety, why people self-harm and how to start the conversation. Delivered on Zoom in collaboration with Rose Rowkins, founder of Start the Conversation.

  • A monthly webinar for parents and carers

    We understand that discovering someone you care about is self-harming is scary and distressing, but being calm and nonjudgemental is one of the best things you can do. This small-group conversation is an opportunity to learn from lived experience so that you can provide the safety and support that is needed.

Self-harm training for schools

  • The science of resilience

    2-3 hour workshop for professionals

    An overview of the nervous system and how it relates to teenage anxiety and emotional regulation, responding to self-harm and building resilience.

  • Rethinking self-harm

    2 hour webinar

    An overview of the science of self-harm and how to start the conversation including why so many young people are turning to self-harm. This webinar is designed for those working directly with young people.

  • Understanding self-harm

    1 hour online or in-person training

    An introduction to the science of self-harm and how to support young people, focussing on teenage anxiety and the nervous system. Designed for school INSET training days.

  • Talks for students

    1 hour online or in-person talks

    Informative and inspiring talks for students on topics including teenage anxiety, the nervous system, emotional regulation and resilience.

Expect to learn about:

  • The neuroscience of how self-harm “works”

  • The real reason teenage anxiety and self-harm is on the rise

  • How our nervous system works to keep us safe

  • How to unlock the power of co-regulation

  • The cycle of self-harm and why we must eliminate shame

  • The importance of talking about “safe” self-harm

  • How to maintain open and trusting conversations

  • Practical tools for emotional regulation and resilience

“Self-harm elicits so much fear and confusion; it makes no sense – until it does. I discovered the power of tapping into the mind-body science of the nervous system by applying it to my own personal experience of healing from self-harm when I was young. With so many people struggling with anxiety and self-harm today, I have decided to share what I wish someone had told me 25 years ago. ”

Testimonials

  • “Your guidance has empowered me to move beyond guilt and reactivity to approach the situation with understanding and helpfulness. This has been a significant step forward in my personal growth and in aiding my child more constructively.”

    Parent of 16 year old

  • “I learnt a lot through counselling about why I self-harmed but the science explains so much more”

    Student, aged 17

  • “Keep doing what you're doing. This has been really inspiring and has broken down the stigma of self-harm. It will undoubtedly have a huge impact on the way I work with clients.”

    NHS Mental Health Team Member

  • “I’m so pleased I signed up for this - well worth taking two hours out of my day to learn, reflect and discuss.”

    Secondary School Head Teacher

Who we work with...

  • Individuals

    Neuroscience-based approaches to foster growth and resilience and uncover paths to healing.

  • Schools and Organisations

    Self-harm training and talks about teenage emotional resilience, rethinking self-harm and how to be our authentic selves.

  • Families and Young People

    Mentoring and coaching to support emotional resilience, nervous system regulation and self-worth.

Just getting started and want to chat about how we can support you best?