Discover. Grow. Thrive.

Unlocking the science of you.

Welcome all the Lovely Messy Humans!

We’re on a mission to empower you through the science of being human – because understanding how your mind and your body work changes everything.

Our work is grounded in insights from evolutionary biology, neuroscience and psychology which we share through simple, relevant talks, training and guidance.

Join us in translating the science of being human into tools for growth, resilience and freedom.

Hi, I’m Beth

I’m the founder of Lovely Messy Humans, a movement grounded in the belief that understanding our biology – how we’re wired to think, feel and survive – is the key to living fully.

After studying Zoology, followed by 25 years advising companies about sustainability, I saw a deeper truth: we can’t change systems without helping people understand themselves.

Because despite our challenges, we’re not broken. We’re beautifully adapted to survive in a world we’ve outgrown – and we all deserve the knowledge that sets us free to be ourselves.

Who we work with...

  • Schools and organisations

    Workshops and talks for schools and organisations focused on self-knowledge, emotional regulation, personal growth and resilience.

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  • Young people and families

    Insights and talks for young people and families on emotional regulation, overcoming self-harm and fostering resilience.

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  • Individuals and groups

    Neuroscience-based coaching and techniques focused on achieving personal and professional goals and increasing resilience.

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The science of self-harm

The huge rise in teenage self-harm speaks volumes about the challenges young people face. Some have said that the information they were given made them feel worse, not better. We think it’s time we changed how self-harm is understood and talked about.

Lovely Messy Humans offers a different way of understanding why people self-harm – one that blends neuroscience with lived experience and real-world conversations with young people, parents and professionals. Our approach is designed to build trust and eliminate shame while sharing practical tools we can all use to build emotional resilience.

  • The science of self-harm and emotional regulation

    An in-depth workshop for schools, colleges, youth organisations and health professionals and youth workers. We’ll dive into the science of the nervous system, how it relates to self-harm and practical tools for supporting emotional regulation.

    Delivered online via Zoom or in person.

    Discover how our workshops can empower your team

  • Rethinking self-harm – online talk for professionals

    A 1-hour talk delivered via Zoom for educators and professionals interested in hearing a science-based perspective, based on lived experience, about why young people self-harm and how we can support them.

    Sign up here to learn more

  • Rethinking self-harm - online talk for parents and carers

    A free-to-attend 1-hour talk delivered via Zoom for parents and carers. We focus on how to provide the safety, understanding and support that is needed to help a young person break free from the cycle of self-harm.

    Sign up here to learn more

Testimonials

  • "The guidance you provided was tangible, helpful and reassuring. It was pitched well, so both experienced and less experienced staff were able to learn. They felt that your lived experience gave it an authenticity which was humbling. Thank you again for your time and support. It’s been so valuable and we're looking forward to working with you further."

    Roedean School

  • “Thank you so much for the training, we’re all excited from taking in the amazing information. We are really keen to work with you and to share our experience from working with our young people.”

    Youth Charity, Wakefield

  • "Beth is incredible at what she does. Within minutes of talking to her she knows what to invite you to explore. Every time I have felt safe, heard, held and loved, and have been able to experience emotions I never knew were there."

    Private coaching client

  • “Keep doing what you're doing. This has been really inspiring and has broken down the stigma of self-harm. It will undoubtedly have a huge impact on the way I work with clients.”

    NHS Mental Health Professional

  • “I’m so pleased I signed up for this - well worth taking two hours out of my day to learn, reflect and discuss.”

    Secondary School Head Teacher

  • I learnt a lot through counselling about myself and why I self-harmed, but it's so interesting to learn about the science - it explains so much"

    Student, age 18

  • "I recently attended your webinar as a parent of a child who self-harms, and I wanted to share my gratitude for the invaluable information provided. It shed light on the underlying reasons for my child's behavior and offered a new perspective on how to support them effectively."

    Parent

  • "I wanted to take the opportunity to thank you. In the past two years, I've spoken and seen so many people but you have been so far the most engaging. I love your approach and I'm sure you will be able to support and help many struggling teenagers."

    Parent of a teenage coaching client

What we do…

  • Training and talks on emotional regulation and resilience, how our nervous system impacts us personally and professionally, the neuroscience of self-harm and more...

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  • A radically different approach to creating change in our lives which can support emotional resilience and provide rapid healing and personal transformation.

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  • Resilience coaching to help clients understand and work with emotions, nervous system regulation and personal challenges.

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