Discover. Grow. Thrive.

Unlocking the science of you.

Grounded in science, shaped by living.

We empower people to thrive through the science of being human.

Our training, talks and guidance combine 25 years of experience in zoology, sustainability and storytelling with cutting-edge science and trauma-informed practice.

WHAT - Understand your nervous system and how it drives you to feel and react the way you do.

WHY - Make sense of challenges like anxiety, trauma-based fear, self-harm and low motivation.

HOW - Learn science-based tools to improve your health, happiness, performance and resilience.

What we do…

    • Understand emotional regulation, resilience and the nervous system

    • Explore the science of dopamine, distraction and getting stuff done

    • Equip staff to support and educate students and parents about self-harm

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    • Build emotional intelligence and nervous system literacy

    • Improve resilience, motivation and performance

    • Learn how the nervous system and trauma drive behaviour

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    • Learn how your nervous system and trauma drive behaviour

    • Regulate your emotions and develop your nervous system

    • Create positive change using neuroscience-based tools and techniques

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Topics we’re currently focused on…

Rethinking self-harm and emotional resilience

The huge rise in teenage self-harm speaks volumes about the challenges young people face.

We offer a science-based approach to understanding and talking about self-harm – one that eliminates shame and creates opportunities for long-term emotional resilience.

The Lovely Messy Brain series

A growing collection of quick guides for teens, parents and educators:

Master your motivation – Dopamine, distraction and how to get things done
Feel-good chemistry – Understanding endorphins
Stress mode – Cortisol and the nervous system
How to calm – Emotional regulation 101

This is where it all started, and it’s still at the heart of what we do…

Support for self-harm and emotional regulation

Our science-backed, compassion-led training and resources are helping schools, organisations and parents change the conversation around self-harm.

Hi, I’m Beth

I founded Lovely Messy Humans after studying Zoology, followed by 25 years working in sustainability and landing on the belief that we can’t change systems without first understanding ourselves.

I retrained as a Resilience Coach, became certified in Havening Techniques and embarked on a journey to learn all that I could all about the human nervous system and tools for emotional regulation.

  • Training for schools and organisations

    Workshops and talks for schools and organisations focused on understanding the nervous system and its role in motivation, emotional regulation and resilience.

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  • Advice for young people and families

    Insights and talks for young people, parents and carers on emotional regulation, resilience, motivation and nervous system health.

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  • Coaching for Individuals and groups

    Neuroscience-based coaching and Havening Techniques to achieve personal goals by working with the nervous system and addressing barriers to growth.

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Testimonials

  • "The guidance you provided was tangible, helpful and reassuring. It was pitched well, so both experienced and less experienced staff were able to learn. They felt that your lived experience gave it an authenticity which was humbling. Thank you again for your time and support. It’s been so valuable and we're looking forward to working with you further."

    Roedean School

  • “Thank you so much for the training, we’re all excited from taking in the amazing information. We are really keen to work with you and to share our experience from working with our young people.”

    Youth Charity, Wakefield

  • "Beth is incredible at what she does. Within minutes of talking to her she knows what to invite you to explore. Every time I have felt safe, heard, held and loved, and have been able to experience emotions I never knew were there."

    Private coaching client

  • “Keep doing what you're doing. This has been really inspiring and has broken down the stigma of self-harm. It will undoubtedly have a huge impact on the way I work with clients.”

    NHS Mental Health Professional

  • “I’m so pleased I signed up for this - well worth taking two hours out of my day to learn, reflect and discuss.”

    Secondary School Head Teacher

  • I learnt a lot through counselling about myself and why I self-harmed, but it's so interesting to learn about the science - it explains so much"

    Student, age 18

  • "I recently attended your webinar as a parent of a child who self-harms, and I wanted to share my gratitude for the invaluable information provided. It shed light on the underlying reasons for my child's behavior and offered a new perspective on how to support them effectively."

    Parent

  • "I wanted to take the opportunity to thank you. In the past two years, I've spoken and seen so many people but you have been so far the most engaging. I love your approach and I'm sure you will be able to support and help many struggling teenagers."

    Parent of a teenage coaching client