The Lovely Messy Humans Method

Resilience Coaching and Havening Techniques® for healing, growth and impact

By rewiring our minds, we can shift our reality – transforming how we experience the world and becoming more self-aware, empowered and resilient.

What is the Lovely Messy Humans method?

Whether you're looking to overcome emotional blocks, improve relationships or unlock new opportunities for growth, I am here to support you. Together, we’ll work towards achieving the personal breakthroughs you desire

My approach is intuitive and coaching-based, using scientifically proven techniques rooted in neuroscience. These innovative methods, like many holistic practices, are yet to be adopted in the mainstream medical system. However, with over 1,000 certified practitioners globally, they are gaining traction and have helped people around the world transform their lives.

This is your journey, and you are in control. I support you in identifying your goals and understanding the mind-body science of healing. I believe in self-led healing and hold space for you to safely work on what you know, deep down, you need to do.

Havening Techniques®: a revolutionary approach to healing and transformation

Havening Techniques® tap into your brain’s natural, biological ability to heal itself, offering a powerful way to release the impacts of past experiences. Taking its name from the concept of a "safe haven," this approach generates Delta waves in the brain, creating a deep sense of safety that allows us to access and rewire parts of our mind that are usually beyond reach.

During a Havening session, your brain undergoes a literal transformation, rewiring itself to reduce the negative effects of past experiences and opening up to new possibilities. This cutting-edge method, also known as Amygdala Depotentiation, deactivates memories stored in the brain’s limbic system which can drive anxiety, fear, stress and avoidance. Havening offers a fast and effective path to change, without the need for traditional talk therapy.

Developed over 20 years ago by Dr. Ronald A. Ruden, M.D., Ph.D., and Steven J. Ruden, D.D.S., ICF/ACC, Havening Techniques have since changed thousands of lives. This client-centred approach works by altering brain chemistry and changing the speed of brain waves to dissolve traumatic memories, leaving us with a stronger, more resilient nervous system and a shifting how we experience life.

Havening transforms how our brain holds onto past experiences. By addressing the root causes of emotional distress and personal limitations, it offers a safe and efficient journey towards lasting change.

Client testimonials

  • "I've never done anything like this before. The approach really helped to draw the emotions out so that I could process and reframe things I've kept buried for years. The memories don't feel as disturbing as they did before."

  • "After a traumatic burn incident I worked with Beth to help me re-process the memory of it using Havening Techniques. In one session, Beth was able to help me vastly reduce the mental trauma, which was amazing. I highly recommend Beth and trying this style of therapy for anyone struggling to process traumatic experiences or memories."

  • "Beth is incredible at what she does. Within minutes of talking to her she knows what to invite you to explore. Every time I have felt safe, heard, held and loved, and have been able to experience emotions I never knew were there."

  • "I feel that this is a whole new way of engaging with the world in the most healed state possible. I feel expanded in capacity where I had felt very low before."

  • "The events came back as memories I haven't thought out or dealt with. It was like I was floating about watching it unfold from above – like watching a film. And then I changed the film. I was able to comfort myself and finally escape from what happened."

  • "I would like to be able to open up more. Men have emotions and we want to get them out. These sessions make me feel safe to go there."

What can I help you with?

  • Through an integrated approach, I can help you learn how your nervous system works, understand trauma, see how it impacts your life, uncover your blind spots, remove emotional blockages, and increase overall well-being and resilience.

  • We often know what's getting in our way, even if it's hard to say it out loud. I help people feel safe enough to go there as we explore buried emotions surrounding a specific event or challenge, process the feelings and beliefs that accompany them and reduce their impact on your life and relationships.

  • Havening Techniques can be applied to a wide range of issues including trauma, emotional reactivity, stress and anxiety, healing from phobias, reducing the emotional element of chronic pain, enhancing performance and priming positive outcomes.

FAQs

  • Havening Techniques® have been shown to effectively support a wide range of outcomes, including:

    • Amygdala-based disorders like panic attacks, phobias, and PTSD

    • Long-term effects of adverse childhood experiences

    • Emotional residue from traumatic experiences

    • Inner blocks to reaching personal goals

    • Professional and sports performance

    • Building resilience and reducing stress

    • Sex and intimacy issues

    • Emotional reactivity

    • Relieving chronic pain by addressing its emotional roots

    • Fear-based beliefs and phobias

    • Panic attacks and anxiety

    • Nightmares and insomnia

    • Hypervigilance

    • Sadness and shame

    • Low self-esteem and confidence

    • Emotional eating

    • Public speaking

  • Sessions usually last an hour and can be conducted in person (in Brighton or Hove) or online via Zoom.

    In person sessions usually take place at The Practice Rooms in Hove (160-162 Church Road, Hove, BN32DL).

    Should you wish to work in person at a different location, please get in touch for a conversation.

  • Therapy deals with diagnosing and treating mental health issues. It involves working with a licensed mental health professional to address psychological issues, emotional challenges and mental health conditions. Havening Techniques® is a psychosensory method and does not replace treatment by a medical practitioner/physician or medical prescriptions or measures. I offer my services solely as a wellness practitioner and stress management coach and our relationship is not to be construed as psychotherapy, psychological counseling, or any type of therapy.

  • The first session is usually an introductory meeting where we discuss your ideal outcomes, challenges, and expectations. It's an opportunity to see if we are a good fit and to outline a potential coaching and mentoring plan.

    The session will include an overview of how Havening works and the science behind it.

    We will then agree work that will be undertaken during the session, ending with a short check-in and discussion of next steps.

  • Once you've undergone a Havening session, you'll notice a difference in how you feel. The challenge you were facing may no longer hold the same power - it may seem like a distant memory that is no longer as emotionally charged. You might feel calmer, safer, lighter and more empowered. The wiring of your brain has been permanently altered, so you'll never again experience that memory or experience in the same way again. You might also experience a feeling of being calm or even sleepy, due to the generation of Delta waves.

  • The number of sessions varies based on individual needs and circumstances. Some people find that a few sessions is all they need, while others may benefit from ongoing support.

  • Absolutely. All information shared during coaching sessions is kept confidential, adhering to professional ethical standards. One of the benefits of Havening Techniques is that it is possible to work content free, meaning you do not have to disclose all the details of what you want to work on.

  • Havening is a psychosensory method and does not replace treatment by a medical practitioner.

    Havening Techniques may be usefully applied alongside working with a qualified therapist. Your therapist should always be consulted - you will be required to provide confirmation of this before we work together.

    I offer services solely as a wellness coach and Havening Techniques practitioner and our relationship is not to be construed as psychotherapy, psychological counselling, or any type of therapy.

    I am not qualified to coach any person diagnosed as having a psychotic illness such as bipolar disorder, epilepsy or schizophrenia.

  • Generally clients experience positive outcomes and report resolution of the specific concerns within a single session. Clinical reports show no additional side-effects when the approach is used appropriately, but in some cases, when working on past trauma, it is possible to experience emotional distress and/or physical discomfort that can be perceived as negative. This is why we will always work at a pace that feels safe, comfortable and that reflects your current level of resilience.

  • I am trained in Havening Techniques and have completed a scientific examination and certification.

    I am mentored by Dr Robin Youngson, a Certified Havening Practitioner and a pioneer in humane and compassionate healthcare, and supported by Jenna Nye.

    I am also a Certified Resilience Coach training with the Leadership Wellness Group.

    I am insured and registered with the International Institute for Complementary Therapists.

    I hold a BSc. (Hons) Zoology and a MSc. Ecology and Environmental Management.

Just getting started and want to chat about how we can support you best?